People's assumptions when I delete social media 

August 14, 2020

Laura Duff

Social Media

Yes. I did it. I deleted social media. OK… I have some back now (lockdown necessities!) … but for the majority of 2019, I didn’t have any. These are the trials and tribulations of a 19-year-old blogger, Youtuber, university-going young woman.  

I am Laura Duff, welcome to my social media series! In these blogs I am going to discuss my experiences with social media, my opinions of social media, and the same of the times when I have done a social media detox (I went off social media for a whole year once). Thanks for taking the time to read!

So, there are a selection of assumptions people make when you go off the grid.

Are you a spy? Are you dead? Are you a criminal?

But then, there are the more mundane ones. The ones people tend to ask you when they see you after months of not seeing you - in person OR through a screen. They, to me, are the most annoying ones.  

“Laura, you’re such a hipster!” and “Laura, you’re so edgy” and “you don’t care what people think, I wish I was like that”.

Goodness me, how these comments rile me up. No, I am not edgy or a hipster, trust me, I didn’t delete social media because I am cool. The reasons are way more complex, yet also much simpler, than you think.

If you ask me honestly why I deleted it, the answers are pretty straightforward:

      1. It is a waste of time. Unless you are literally making money from doing it, what is the point in posting a picture of your bagel, or liking someone else's photo?

I don’t really need to finish the list do I. That’s the main reason, and all the other one's kind of point back to that, but oh, if YOU insist…

  1. I don’t like people constantly knowing what I’m doing and vice versa. It takes the excitement out of life.
  1. I don’t care what people are doing, even my friends, but we are obliged to follow certain people.

For this point, it’s not that I never want to know; I’m just not interested in seeing it through a screen. If you’re my close friend, I don’t want to know what you’re doing via the internet, I want to do it with you...

  1. I get massive FOMO, even in the months that I feel majorly introverted.

When you are alone in your house, and you see people post out at the pub or with a friend, it will seem so untouchable and majestic. I bet they have been sat on their phone the whole time anyway, not even enjoying it.

No, that was harsh. But seriously, you hardly know anything about the people who you see posting these things, and you may know them but not even like them. Nevertheless, we are intimidated by each and every thing our Following posts, regardless if we mean it or not.  

There are some months that I don’t want to go out. I want to focus on university, but I feel pressured to go out because it seems like everybody else is and are still getting better grades than me. And I think, am I stupid? Why can’t I have a work-life balance like them? But as far as I know, they may be thinking the same of me, or they might not even be socialising near to the extent I think they are.

People often think if they delete social media, they will get a terrible case of FOMO (for you elders reading this, this stands for Fear of Missing Out), but in my opinion, it has the reverse effect. How can you get Fear of Missing Out if you don’t know what you’re missing out on?

Stay tuned for more blogs about social media!

Laura Duff

The team call me the 'mighty Duff'. I'm 19 years old and study Cognitive Science at the University of Edinburgh. Throughout our time together, I'll be writing about topics related to mental health, food and fitness! I'm also a host for the Wedotalk, check them out on YouTube, Spotify or Soundcloud! Down below you'll find my personal links, I make vlogs as a hobby!

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